Throughout this series, I have received other questions in addition to the ones that I’ve posted here this month.
(If you’d like to go back and read the other questions, click here and check out the list. You can click on each question and it will take you to the corresponding post.)
Can my foster child and my biological children share a bedroom?
In our state of South Carolina, mixed gender children can share a room as long as they are under 4 years old. Children 4 and over must share a room with other children of the same gender or be in a room of their own. Children of the same gender can share a room no matter the age.
Can I just do respite care?
Absolutely! Providing respite care or emergency placements is a great way to get started in foster care. It especially allows children who are already in the home to get used to the idea of welcoming in other kids!
I’m single. Can I still be a foster parent?
Yes, yes, yes! Single people and married people alike have so much to offer kids in need of a foster home. Being single does not disqualify anyone from being a foster parent.
Can I be a foster parent and work full time or do I have to be a stay-at-home-parent?
My husband and I both work full time. Many foster families are fortunate to have one parent stay at home, but it is not a requirement.
Do I get to choose the age/gender of my foster children?
Yes. You can set the parameters for the kinds of kids who will come in to your home. When we started, we asked for either gender, ages 0-2. Now that we have our son who will soon be 4, we will only accept boys younger than 4, because they will have to share a room. Also, we have two cribs that convert to toddler beds, so taking a child older than 4 would mean moving a big bed into the room and right now, there’s just not enough space! Our home is two-bedroom, so until we move into a house with more bedrooms, we will be living with this arrangement.
What’s the one trick to making a child feel welcome in your home in the first few minutes?
FOOD! Haha! We try to feed the kids when they first come into our home. It doesn’t matter what time of day or if they just “ate” or not. Some kids have a really hard time eating on the road with a caseworker after they’ve been removed from their homes. Once they get to a house and are trying to get settled, feeding them a yummy meal will usually make them feel very secure.